What Causes Conflict – Are You Contributing To It?

Posted By on September 20th

Are you contributing to what causes conflict? Are you contributing to the perpetuation of the conflict?

Sometimes we put ourselves into conflict without fully appreciating our own thoughts and behavior.

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I grew up in Miami and became a fan of the University of Miami Hurricanes football program. I had two friends who also were Hurricanes fans from growing up in Miami. However, we all decided to go to college at the University of Florida.

Of course, the first football game of the year was University of Miami versus University of Florida. After being life-long Hurricane fans, my two friends and I found ourselves unable to immediately change our allegiance. Although we sat in the University of Florida student section, we loudly rooted throughout the game for University of Miami. The Florida fans sitting around us did not appreciate our cheering for Miami, especially after Miami won the close game.

Fortunately, no physical confrontation occurred from our behavior. In retrospect, something certainly could have happened. We were young and didn’t give much thought to our behavior. We were not giving much thought to how the other fans sitting by us probably viewed us as being incredibly obnoxious. I think there was also probably a little part of us that liked feeling rebellious and not joining in with the others sitting around us.

There are times in your life as well that you’re not aware of how your thoughts and behavior are being perceived by others. Maybe you’re just having a good time and don’t mean any harm to anyone. Maybe you know exactly what they’re thinking about you, and you still choose to be a little different. How is your lack of self-awareness or disregard for others initiating or contributing to the conflict?

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About the author

Keith Grossman helps individuals and businesses negotiate and manage conflict more comfortably. Keith is a Collaborative Attorney, a Family and Circuit Civil mediator certified by the Supreme Court of Florida, an Arbitrator qualified by the Florida Supreme Court, and an educator. Keith frequently lectures and facilitates training programs, works with individuals one-on-one, and writes articles on conflict management and negotiation topics. His e-workbooks, “What Is A Peace Chest?” and “How Do You Build A Peace Chest?“ are now available on Kindle.

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2 Responses to “What Causes Conflict – Are You Contributing To It?”

  1. David Jones says:

    Conflict is an outgrowth of competition, ergo if you want to address conflict (and its evil manifestation – war) then you need to focus on competition. Competition is an activity that should be confined to the rugby playing field. it has no business in business and no role to play in social relationships. If you / and we are truly dedicated to ferreting out root causes and making a difference we need new models and new methods. Some of those were developed 2300 years ago – laying fallow ever since: http://tinyurl.com/897kb6p

  2. admin says:

    You make great points, David. We learn to share and collaborate the first few years of our lives, and then we’re taught we need to compete and be on the winning side.

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