Resolving Conflicts Now – Fort Myers, Naples, Bonita Springs, Estero, Cape Coral – Keith Grossman

Posted By admin on August 20th

Scilla Elworthy can share a lot of conflict management success stories. Dr. Elworthy is a distinguished activist for peace and has been nominated three times for the Nobel Peace Prize. The mission for her global projects has always been to help facilitate peace where conflict dominates.

Based on her experience, she has a number of important thoughts about managing conflict that she shares in this Ted Talks video.

She starts with the question, “How do we deal with extreme violence without using force in return?”

She explains that using force against force doesn’t work. She explains that she has collected a half-dozen methods that do work.

The first one she highlights is what I call making a paradigm shift in your thinking. You have to be committed to resolving conflict with solutions instead of force. Dr. Elworthy emphasizes that the only thing we have control over is our attitude and our actions. Therefore, you need to self-analyze to determine your strengths and weaknesses when faced with conflict.

She also emphasizes that we have to master our own fear when faced with conflict. We need to recognize and work with our fear. We need to respond with thought and strategy, not with immediate reaction. At 5:57 in the video, she speaks about a strategy she uses to control her own fears.

In addition to fear, Dr. Elworthy emphasizes that we must master our anger. Don’t use anger to argue and blame; rather, use your anger to have passion and energy about the subject matter and recognize that the other people involved are also human beings doing what they think is best. In your dialogue with them, you need to acknowledge their humanity. Work on cooperating with others.

Dr. Elworthy says that the most effective way to manage conflict is to use “methods that connect people with people; that rebuild.”

Would you like to learn more about working with conflict management? Email me: Keith@AttorneyGrossman.com, or call me toll free at (877) 687-1392 or locally at (239) 210-7516.

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The workbook is the first in the “Building Your Peace Chest” series. It will help you understand how to engage conflict with a purpose and goals rather than reacting.

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