Dealing With Conflict A Better Way

Posted By on April 5th

Is there a better way for dealing with conflict?

Many people deal with conflict from a totally emotional level. The conflict may require them to make a change. It may require them to deal with the unknown and move out of their comfort zone. The conflict puts them in a scary place, so they react by going into “survivor mode”. Someone is trying to change their world, so they react aggressively.

Dealing With Conflict

I remember as a kid that one of my favorite books was called “The Monster at the End of This Book”. Throughout the pages, Sesame Street character Grover begged me not to turn the pages because there was a scary monster at the end of the book. Each page, Grover would try to build an obstacle that would prevent me from turning the page. Of course, he was unsuccessful, and I would continue to turn pages. At the end of the book, it turned out the “monster” was lovable Grover himself.

Many times I feel this is how people handle conflict. When dealing with conflict, they are convinced there’s a monster at the end of the path. They put up every obstacle they can think of to prevent getting to a solution. It usually turns out, however, they are their worst enemy and the solution is nothing to be scared about.

I submit to you that a conflict that results in a “winner” and a “loser” is not a conflict that is worth the emotional and financial resources for either side. Rather, I suggest you would be better served to resolve the conflict early and in a way that all involved can accept the result.

Are you dealing with conflict? Are you interested in learning how to resolve it? Call me at (239) 210-7516. Your initial consultation is free!



About the author

Keith Grossman helps individuals and businesses negotiate and manage conflict more comfortably. Keith is a Collaborative Attorney, a Family and Circuit Civil mediator certified by the Supreme Court of Florida, an Arbitrator qualified by the Florida Supreme Court, and an educator. Keith frequently lectures and facilitates training programs, works with individuals one-on-one, and writes articles on conflict management and negotiation topics. His e-workbooks, “What Is A Peace Chest?” and “How Do You Build A Peace Chest?“ are now available on Kindle.


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