Deal With Conflict by Making a Paradigm Shift

Posted By on March 5th

Peacemaking is not easy. It requires a shift in thinking from our learned way of thinking about how to deal with conflict. This shift in thinking is called a paradigm shift, and it has to be remembered throughout the conflict.

Deal with Conflict

Every day, people successfully deal with conflict by making a paradigm shift.

I once had a client in my law practice, and we were coming close to settling her case. She knew somewhere within herself that she was making a smart decision to settle. She was having a difficult time, however, with the outcome. She knew she wasn’t getting everything she had originally wanted, and that made her feel like she was “losing”. She was complaining about that at the time we were settling her case when one of my paralegals said to her, “Is your husband getting everything he wants?”

Just posing that question made our client reconsider her viewpoint. She realized that both of them had made concessions. Neither one of them had “won” and neither one of them had “lost” in the way she originally defined those terms. She was now able to satisfactorily redefine those terms so that winning meant she could stop paying an attorney, she knew what her obligations would be, she could stop stressing over the unknown, and she could move on with her personal healing. That was when she had her paradigm shift.

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About the author

Keith Grossman helps individuals and businesses negotiate and manage conflict more comfortably. Keith is a Collaborative Attorney, a Family and Circuit Civil mediator certified by the Supreme Court of Florida, an Arbitrator qualified by the Florida Supreme Court, and an educator. Keith frequently lectures and facilitates training programs, works with individuals one-on-one, and writes articles on conflict management and negotiation topics. His e-workbooks, “What Is A Peace Chest?” and “How Do You Build A Peace Chest?“ are now available on Kindle.


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