Do You Feel Guilty About Mindfulness?

Posted By on September 20th

Have you ever been mindful?

More and more people are talking about becoming mindful, a state of being wholly present in the moment, not focused on the past and not focused on the future.

My friend, Richard, recently posted on Facebook, “Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

That is being mindful. And how do we achieve it without feeling like we’re doing something wrong?

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Elisa and I recently went to Golden Gate Park in San Francisco and unknowingly found ourselves in the middle of “Peace in the Park”, a community celebration of finding peace. For me, and the mission I follow, it was what we would say in Yiddish as b’sheret – it was meant to be.

We listened to music and teachings. We watched people dance and laugh. We enjoyed unbelievably delicious vegan tamales and brownie sundaes.

Elisa said, “I’m enjoying being here right now. I’m not thinking about anything else.”

And that was the point.

Dalai Lama says, “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”

And then Elisa said, “I probably have to leave home to feel this.”

I hope that isn’t true. Elisa immediately felt uncomfortable to just be enjoying the moment. She felt in contradiction to life’s expectations to be overbooked and superhuman. She felt guilty to be prioritizing herself.

What do you think? How can we find peace and mindfulness in our everyday home without feeling like we’re damaging our relationships?

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About the author

Keith Grossman helps individuals and businesses negotiate and manage conflict more comfortably. Keith is a Collaborative Attorney, a Family and Circuit Civil mediator certified by the Supreme Court of Florida, an Arbitrator qualified by the Florida Supreme Court, and an educator. Keith frequently lectures and facilitates training programs, works with individuals one-on-one, and writes articles on conflict management and negotiation topics. His e-workbooks, “What Is A Peace Chest?” and “How Do You Build A Peace Chest?“ are now available on Kindle.


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