How Do You Resolve Conflict With the “Feelings” Person?
Posted By admin on August 31st
Who provoked the biggest response at last night’s Republican Convention? Clint Eastwood talking to an empty chair.
The empty chair represents Eastwood’s conflict with President Barack Obama – Eastwood’s “feeling” that Obama is bad for our country. His speech failed to clarify the basis for his feelings and certainly did not articulate any solutions.
How do you resolve conflict with a “Feelings” person? Are you recognizing the people who just feel that things are bad and don’t know what to do about it?
Our world is filled with “Math” people and “Feelings” people. Typically, “Math” perspectives are presented at political conferences. The presenters speak of practical problems and logical responses. Their pure charisma may evoke feelings, but their presentations are basically straightforward and orchestrated.
Eastwood’s presentation represented the “Feelings” people. They don’t have a clear idea of what they want; they just know they don’t want Obama. They are still in shock about how they feel they’ve been wronged, and/or they are fearful about the future.
The pundits are talking about how bizarre Eastwood’s presentation came across. The people at the convention, however, loved it. They laughed and they cheered.
The pundits don’t know how to react to the anxious, unclear, and confused “Feelings” person. In your relationships, you don’t have the luxury of ignoring them. When resolving conflict, don’t dismiss the “Feelings” person that is unchanged by logic and practical discussions.
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