Do You Feel Guilty About Mindfulness?

| September 20th

Have you ever been mindful? More and more people are talking about becoming mindful, a state of being wholly present in the moment, not focused on the past and not focused on the future. My friend, Richard, recently posted on Facebook, “Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and […]

Pause – A Conflict Management Strategy

| December 22nd

With Christmas and New Year coming up, I want to make sure you know how valuable the Pause can be. The Pause is a conflict management strategy. I have learned the Pause will allow you to act strategically instead of react emotionally. Take a moment when you’re in the midst of holiday insanity to remove […]

Taylor Swift Taught Me Something About Relationships

| November 6th

My 14-year-old daughter tells me that most of her friends attended the recent Taylor Swift concert, and they all LoVEd it. I overheard adults also talking about what a wonderful experience they had for themselves and with their child. It turns out that Taylor is more than just uber talented and hard working. She understands […]

Jennifer Lawrence Talks About Her Negotiation Mistakes

| October 22nd

Jennifer Lawrence has been in the news talking about the mistakes she made during the negotiation for her part in the movie, American Hustle. I explore the lessons we can learn from Lawrence’s statements in this video. If you would like a copy of the Assertive & Cooperative personalities chart that I talk about in the […]

Help People Develop Their Collaborative Skills

| November 20th

In order to be collaborative, to build consensus, and to manage conflict, a leader has to spend time and effort developing other employees. You should help people develop their collaborative skills. In an article by Mary Jo Asmus (@mjasmus), Asmus discusses how critically important it is for you to develop others in your business or […]

Conflict Management Stories: A Story of 2 Sisters and an Orange

| October 21st

At a recent training presentation I facilitated, I told one of my conflict management stories: a story of 2 sisters and an orange. This story typically makes a strong impression, and this recent training presentation was no exception. After the presentation, a lady came up to me and said that this story really helped her […]

Addressing Trust Issues When Dealing With Conflict

| February 5th

Are you supervising other employees? One of the ways for dealing with conflict is by building trust. If you are supervising other employees, part of your strategies for addressing trust issues when dealing with conflict is to create an environment of trust. Conflicts will always arise, which will challenge the environment of trust. This breakdown […]

A Change In Thinking Can Resolve a Conflict

| December 12th

When we are in preschool, we are all taught to share with others. In fact, I remember when my kids were children in preschool, they sang a little song with a line it: “It’s mine, but you can have some”. That’s a nice thought, and we are all taught that early on in life. Somewhere […]

How Do You Resolve Conflict With the “Feelings” Person?

| August 31st

Who provoked the biggest response at last night’s Republican Convention? Clint Eastwood talking to an empty chair. The empty chair represents Eastwood’s conflict with President Barack Obama – Eastwood’s “feeling” that Obama is bad for our country. His speech failed to clarify the basis for his feelings and certainly did not articulate any solutions. How […]

3 Tips After Watching the Federal Budget Deals

| August 3rd

For weeks, we have been subjected to the negotiations between Congressional leaders and President Obama over the debt ceiling and federal budget. It was a roller coaster ride with a lot of tense words and finger pointing. And in the end (which is not really the end), do we have anything to show for it? […]